My View: What to expect — Christmas Eve on steroids
I am going to be a dad.
I find myself in complete disbelief every time I think about that. I feel like just yesterday I was a kid, sometimes I think I still am. I work long hours, I really like getting a full night’s sleep and I enjoy the flexibility that comes with being childless.
My wife and I have been married for 6 years this June and we feel like we are ready, but at the same time I don’t think you can ever be completely prepared for having a child.
I have no idea what to expect, and I am very quickly going to be plunged into a new world of fatherhood. My son is due April 21, only a few weeks away, and in a flash I will be responsible for another human’s life, another person who will depend on me to live to learn and to develop. I have no idea what to really expect.
My wife, who has been amazing throughout her pregnancy, certainly has it harder than I do. I am not the one who grew a belly and whose body has had to carry and support an extra life. I am really just an assistant through this process — helping to keep her happy and healthy, and ready to go when the time comes.
It is remarkable what the human body is capable of. She has been teaching Nordic skiing at Tahoe Donner all the way up to a week ago and has had a great time working throughout the pregnancy. I can’t imagine that I would be able to do that. When I try to put myself in her shoes, I think I would just take a nap for 9 months and call it good.
We are both in disbelief. We are overjoyed and amazingly excited, but at the same time I would say we are both terrified. I think you would have to be crazy to not feel that same way. There is so much that goes into children.
My mind wanders from time to time, and I find myself thinking about what the future may hold and the fact that my kid could live to see the next century.
He will grow up in a world where all of the information you could ever want to access is literally at your fingertips. He will play with technology that we can’t even imagine yet. He will never know what it was like to not have a computer, or to not have a cellphone, or to not have access to a global world.
It is very remarkable. When I think about the changes in our world just since I was born in the late ‘80s to what we see now, I can’t even imagine what his world will look like when he is expecting his first born.
The crazy thing is that my wife and I will have the duty of helping to shape our son’s path and to help give him the footing he needs to be successful in whatever world he ends up living.
As our due date quickly approaches and as we get our hospital bags packed, the reality of what we have coming is really sinking in. Sure, I have read the books, done the research, bought the stuff that you supposedly need to raise a baby. From an intellectual side of things, I get it.
My education is in anthropology and history. So I fully understand that humans have been having kids for countless generations. We recently attended a baby and birthing class put on by the Tahoe Forest Hospital. Mary Hoffman, an RN who has been working in delivery for the last 20 plus years, taught the class. Needless to say we learned a lot. There was a wealth of information that came in and made us feel more ready that we had been at first.
At the same time, it also left us with a sense that everything was about to get very real. It was also very reassuring to meet a other parents to be and to find that we all share the same concerns and seem to all be in the same state of excited anticipation.
With the due date looming, I am left with the question of what we do next. It is hard to put into words. I am sure that this is one of those emotions that you know when you feel it, but have no way to explain it to someone, unless they have felt it too.
The best way I know to explain this is it is like Christmas Eve on steroids — that overpowering sense of anticipation of what is to come.
As I have watched several of my friends make this transition and become moms and dads, I know that I am ready to make this transition too. I can’t wait to meet my son who will completely rock my world.
Ben Rogers is the co-general manager and advertising director of the Sierra Sun and North Lake Tahoe Bonanza. He can be reached directly at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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